Nobody likes to receive negative feedback and be judged for every little mistake they make; unfortunately, it’s a fact of life we can’t do anything about. Every now and then, we get constructive criticism from the people around us. This form of feedback is meant to improve our abilities, our skills and our perceptions. Experts agree that women get more negative feedback at the workplace than men. Why is this happening? Probably because a couple of centuries ago the work space was not meant for a woman, and whether we like it or not, some business fields are still made of 80% men and 20% women.
Ironically, women are not that sensitive after all. Some are tougher than men; and since modern society believes in equal rights between men and women, it’s now easier than ever to tackle negative feedback through negotiations. As long as women have the nerve to fight back, their negotiations techniques can help them ward off bad evaluations. Determination is everything you need to make yourself noticed.
Do yourself a favor and don’t start to cry at the office. Rather than make others pity you, it’s best to accept whatever they said and move on. Maintain a professional attitude – that will hurt them more than if you had burst into tears. Unlike men, women struggle to control their emotions. Although negative feedback can hurt, you have to be tough. In some circumstances, your boss might want to test your strengths to see how much you can take. If you get upset or defensive, the whole situation might worsen.
Every meeting should be seen as an opportunity to learn, and if your boss or supervisor is criticizing you, maybe you should revise your attitude. It’s really important to take notes when someone gives negative feedback. Accept whatever they have to say with dignity and don’t show any signs of weakness.
Why did you get negative feedback?
If your boss is giving negative feedback, it’s probably because you did something wrong. Ask for clearance in order to understand your mistake and do whatever’s necessary to fix it. There’s no shame in messing up, so just because you’re the only woman in a team of 10 co-workers, it doesn’t mean you’re responsible for everything. Speak up and don’t let anyone assume you’ll start to cry. “What did I do wrong? Is there any way I can fix this? I would love another opportunity; I know I’m better than this”.It’s really important to maintain a positive attitude. You made a mistake, that’s fine. Embrace it and move on.
Prove that you’re valuable
Although it’s not that easy to tackle negative feedback, it’s not impossible either. Have a one-on-one meeting with your boss; talk about your ambitions and highlight that you’re most committed person he’ll ever meet. “I’m going to work harder to prove you wrong”, “I’m driven and determined, I just need another chance at making things better”. When a supervisor or manager observes you’re eager to fix your mistakes, he will see you have a lot of potential. He might even realize that negative feedback was necessary to get you out of your comfort zone.
Negative feedback can lead to success
It’s never easy to receive negative feedback, regardless of your career stage. Both men and women get upset and defensive when someone criticizes their work. Surprisingly, negative feedback is a great opportunity for you to learn, grow and surpass your boundaries. An employee who can take bad feedback with pride will probably become an excellent leader someday. It’s important to take risks if you want to succeed; he who has never taken a risk in his life can’t move forward because he can’t move pass his mistakes.
Usually, when a manager gives negative feedback, it’s because he cares. He sees something in you that you can’t. Young employees take bad feedback negatively; women in particular, often feel attacked and insulted. It’s wrong to assume that your boss has something personal with you. Rather than complain, did you ever think to negotiate? Bargain for what you believe in, let your boss know you’re the best and that his negative feedback will help you grow and make a name for yourself.
Comvort Professional post by Jason Phillips and TheGapPartnership.com!